Lance writes…
I published my first thoughts about the Michael Guglielmucci cancer fraud last week, and now that much more is known, it’s time to have a second go.
I’m finding a lot of parallels between what’s happened to this guy, and things I’ve experienced; in personal life, in family life and in workplace life.
Firstly, I think it’s important to get some broad perspective.
This is not all about what Michael Guglielmucci did or didn’t do.
This is about what Michael Giglielmucci did or didn’t do and what he did to the victims of this hoax.
When we’re thinking about one individual, in this case Michael, it’s easy to think about the ramifications of this hoax for his life.
Much of the blog talk his been about doing what’s right for him…and considering his circumstances.
What’s harder to get our heads around, is the amorphous mass that is comprised of each individual he has conned.
We find it hard to imagine say, a teenage girl who lives in Abbotsford who faithfully turned up at Dallas Brooks Hall or Melbourne Town Hall and hung on Pastor Michael’s every word and is now confused or in tears……
It’s hard for us to imagine because she’s not being written about and discussed every day.
Or, another teenager, let’s call him Jeremy, who travelled up from the outer suburbs early each Sunday to set up the sound gear and gave up a Big Mac meal so he could give Mike $5 in the offering.
I can tell from the exponential growth (approaching a tsunami) in hits on this pissy little blog that there are thousands and thousands and thousands of individual real-life stories of people who are feeling a range of emotions and faith challenges, because of Mike’s elaborate hoax.
But the reality is .. there aren’t entire comments threads (maybe there should be) devoted to how we should be doing the right thing by young Jeremy of Seaford or Beth from Pasadena, California who’s got all the Planetshakers albums…
The Adelaide Advertiser tried to help us get our minds around the impact of the fraud on the individual.
“One of those was former Edge Church International member Alex Saint, 24, who bought the music and was touched by his idol’s supposed strength.
The video editor, who lives near Murray Bridge, felt a connection because his mother had recently died of breast cancer.
As a result, he donated a small amount to the now-defunct Facebook page “Praying Together for Mike Guglielmucci”.
“I believed every word he said. I believed he was going through hell,” Mr Saint said.
“My heart goes out to all the people who have been hurt . . . to make all this up is extremely crushing for anyone who has gone through cancer. There’s no better script than to be dying of cancer and giving glory to God in a Christian context . . . it’s the highest form of fraud.”
Another believer, Caroline, 46, donated $800 after seeing Mr Guglielmucci perform at the Edge Church at Reynella about five months ago.
The grandmother, who is receiving a disability pension, was saving the money to take her four-year-old grandson – who is wheelchair-bound with cerebral palsy – to Sydney for a holiday.
“I feel like a real idiot,” she said. “I saw Michael talk and sing and he’s so very charismatic.
“I decided to donate the money because I thought it could benefit more people, but what a con.”
http://www.news.com.au/adelaidenow/story/0,22606,24226455-911,00.html
There are many, many more stories like these. Personal stories, individual stories, each as heartfelt and life-changing as each other.
So although those who support Michael are speaking as though he is the only one to be considered in all this, he is not.
It would appear real crimes were committed against real people. People whom the Assemblies of God are expert at de-personalising as numbers on church growth reports.
About the only people who’ve recognised this in Christian circles are the Guglielmuccis themselves. Michael has personally written to the South Australian Police Commissioner Mal Hyde to offer full co-operation in any Police investigation.
That’s not a magnaminous gesture by Michael. That’s just a recognition of the stark reality of this grand hoax, which seems to escape a number of Pente apologists.
Secondly, there is the matter of how we got to this point.
All week, I’ve been waiting for a pastor, any pastor, indeed any Pentecostal to drop the magic MS words – Munchausen Syndrome.
I was really hoping against hope that some Pente pastor, who counsels aand advises people each week, had some idea of the basics of pastoral care and associated psychological conditions.
But all I’ve seen is just a general throwing of hands in the air, quizzical looks, quizzical statements; an attitude that this is all completely inexplicable, you know, like it’s never ever happened to anyone before, so it must be something that’s really spooooooky, like, wow.
But it’s a well-known condition that’s not uncommon.
“Munchausen syndrome is a condition in which a person intentionally fakes, simulates, worsens, or self-induces an injury or illness for the main purpose of being treated like a medical patient……
…..Persons with Munchausen syndrome intentionally cause signs and symptoms of an illness or injury by inflicting medical harm to their body, often to the point of having to be hospitalized. These persons are sometimes eager to undergo invasive medical interventions. They are also known to move from doctor to doctor, hospital to hospital, or town to town to find a new audience once they have exhausted the workup and treatment options available in a given medical setting. Persons with Munchausen syndrome may also make false claims about their accomplishments, credentials, relations to famous persons, etc…..”
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/munchausen_syndrome/article_em.htm
The explanation that’s been given by the Guglielmucci family for Michael’s behaviour is that it’s linked to a porn addiction from the age of 12.
I think that’s a clue to the real story, but I’m sorry, I’m not buying it. How do I know? Let’s just say I have personal experience of this from a close family member (oxygen bottle at one stage ..and all)
I think you have to imagine yourself in Mike’s place as the son of a ‘Men’s Minister’.
You know those church men’s ministers. Think Promise Keepers. Think 10 steps to being a Godly man. Think ‘do you think Jesus would be pleased with you watching you masturbating’? etc.
Danny Guglielmucci makes quite a nice earner out of doing the church Men’s Ministry circuit, telling men how to be men (even though they’re already men)
Here’s some Danny one-liners that he tells men who are already men but need to become men.
“When you’re sent you go with authority.
When you’re went you go with only your ability.”
“Suspicion, insecurity and gossip are the three enemies of trust.”
“Some people in church life contribute… others build.”
“When we don’t fuel the House… we rob it of achieving its purpose (the context is Malachi 3).”
“The degree to which you see Jesus, the degree to which you’ll serve.”
“We judge others by the evil in our own hearts.”
“Your and determines your end.”
“Unity flows from authority.”
“I can’t correct you until I can caress you.”
http://clivesmit.blogspot.com/2008/07/danny-guglielmucci-one-liners.html
(I don’t even want to begin to think about what that last one-liner meant)
In the world of Danny Guglielmucci, the only acceptable men are heroes. The conquerers, those who ride into battle and win. Marlboro-man stuff. Think of every cliched Hollywood hero and put a bible in their hand and you’ve got Danny’s Real Christian Man.
So let’s return to Mike.
He’s a young teenager with a porn addiction, in a home where a porn addiction is unthinkable as well as being unacceptable.
And when I use the word ‘unacceptable’…I mean….cannot be acccepted at all.
As a sidelight, it’s actually very, very similar to what a gay teenager goes through in a home with a homophobic parent (more common than the Guglielmucci family Men’s Minister as dad scenario)
Coming out as a gay teenager is unacceptable and not possible.
So what do you do?
You lie.
I’ve done it.
When the situation prompts a response, you reply ‘I’m interested in a girl’, when you’re not.
You may even go out with a girl you’re not interested in, to bolster the lie that keeps your acceptability within the family environment intact.
So, you’re Michael Guglielmucci, and your dad’s the expert at making the perfect porn-avoiding Christian Marlboro Man Hero, but you still have a psychological need to be cared for, which doesn’t fit into your dad’s theology or teaching…
One week, you have a few days off school because of a cold and you find people are caring for you and filling that psychological need.
And then you fib a bit about how bad you’re feeling and you find care expressed even more..and for a while you’re feeling even better about yourself.
But the only way to fill this need and keep receiving care from a father who only really cares about building his ministry and flying off to Darwin and Christchurch and Perth, is to keep faking ill health.
It gets his attention. It works so you keep doing it.
And you’re in church circles where all you’ve ever known is a culture that when you pull at the heart strings then money starts flowing your way, like when you turn on the hot water tap in the shower, hot water comes out.
So after two decades of doing this, which is normal and second nature to you, you find yourself standing in Hill$ong singing music with an oxygen mask on ..and people are filling your (Munchausen Syndrome) psychological need even more.
You do it because you’ve always done it and it’s always worked for you, and by this stage you’ve forgotten ever knowing anything different.
You don’t even really understand why others don’t do what’s worked so well for you, but you’ve learned to cope along the way with the sick feeling you get in your guts and in your head about your life. That’s just what you’ve always known.
And you don’t feel that it’s wrong; all the exaggerations and stories, because everyone around you in your Pentecostal church is fibbing and exaggerating and using hyperbole, and wherever you go to every other church, everyone acts the same way, and it’s the only world you know.
It’s not hard to see where Mike got to where he is, in a church culture that has absolutely no means of detecting fraud unless the fraudster admits it …and in a church community that is massively ill-equipped to deal with anything but the most basic pastoral care situations (births, funerals, marriages, lost bibles with the inside cover signed by Joel Houston)
But Mike is also an adult, and from what I can gather, an intelligent and articulate adult who was not incapable of abandoning the lie at any step of the way, although at some cost, which made it easier to just keep the lie going.
It could be argued that there is high pressure on the Guglielmucci children to become pastors and ‘hero he-men Marlboro-man builders’ but there is no reason why Mike must be a pastor.
He can make music, we know he can work a computer, so he has life skills that mean he doesn’t have to be ‘restored’ to church ministry.
There is no impediment to barring him from ministry for life. He will find another job and find fulfillment away from the spotlight and the church pressures.
I’m of the view that the best thing he can do is to say ‘no’ to the ACC people trying to push him into the Pente-style restoration process …with the obligatory trip to their mysterious restoration ‘facility’ in the US.
If Danny Guglielmucci had taken the doctor’s advice when Mike was a teen and got him to a psychiatrist, then I’m confident we wouldn’t have the mess we’re in now. Given the recent Ted Haggard ‘restoration’, and the Mercy Ministry horror revelations (not forgetting Danny Guglielmucci has been a director of MM) I have absolutely no confidence in Pentecostal restoration and ministry methods whatsoever.
I think it’s a realistic risk that the Pente ‘restoration’ could make things worse. You don’t get ‘care’ in Pente circles. You get harangued, brow-beaten and demoralised.
That’s the last thing Mike needs when there is a demonstrated need for proper emotional care at the root of all this.
I thik the fact that Mike wasn’t at church this weekend, is a clear indication of the fact that if you’re in trouble in life…a visit to a Pentecostal church will only make things worse, not better.
Deep down, I think even Pentecostal church leaders know that, and that’s why they would keep someone who was ‘very ill’ away from the church environment.
For a final word (for the moment) I’d like to return to Danny Guglielmucci.
This quote of his from the weekend really bugged me and said a lot about the (Marlboro) man.
“Michael is struggling with a different kind of illness and is receiving professional help and will do so as long as is needed. On the council (sic) and advice of our executive and board, after our up and coming Edge conference,[emphasis mine] we will take time to be with Mike and get him all the professional and spiritual help he needs to come to full recovery.”
After, the conference?
Did Danny say after the conference?
Danny the builder, Danny the real man, has decided that as his son faces the biggest (real) threat to his health and livelihood, that he’s going to wait until after some pissy dime-a-dozen church wankfest to help his son live again.
The fact is …Danny does not need to be at this conference at all. If he was the one who was crook, then the church would make arrangements to cover for him.
Reality is, is that there are any number of young wanker Penty pastors from around Australia, New Zealand and Asia who’d kill for the opportunity to play a key role in such a Christian wankathon. They would die to be up on stage, screaming out ‘is God in da house tonight…..can I hear any Amen? Awesome!’
Perhaps Danny, for the sake of your son, it’s time to put aside your own addiction to the bright lights and juicy love offerings, and be a father instead of the church’s life coach and the Porn Police.