Church divorced from reality – updated*

 

Christianity Today reports…

“The leader of one of America’s most influential megachurches [has apologised] during worship services this weekend for failing to show kindness and compassion to struggling church members.

Matt Chandler, pastor of the Village Church, a multisite church based near Dallas, said elders there had been “domineering” in their approach to church discipline in a handful of cases.

That was wrong and unchristian, said Chandler, who also leads the Acts29 church planting network.

“We have sinned against some people—and we are owning that before God and specifically before the people we have hurt,” he told CT in a phone interview.

“Our desire is always to be loving and caring. It is clear that we have not communicated—in multiple cases now—the gentleness, compassion, and patience that our elders are called to walk in.”

Chandler declined to comment on specific incidents of church discipline due to privacy concerns.

His apology was prompted in large part by public criticism of the church’s handling of the case of Karen Hinkley, a missionary who faces church discipline for ending her marriage earlier this year.

Her former husband, Jordan Root, was fired as a missionary with SIM, an international missionary agency, after admitting to viewing child porn for years.

Church leaders told Hinkley that she should have consulted with them before filing for an annulment. When she tried to withdraw her membership, the Village Church placed her under discipline, citing the congregation’s Covenant Membership policies.

Until Thursday, the two sides were at a standstill.

Hinkley, who no longer considers herself a member of the Village Church, had asked its elders to leave her alone.

“I ask that The Village Church refrain from any future communication on my behalf to my friends, family, and supporters,” she wrote them in her February 11 resignation letter.

Church leaders had refused to comply with that request for weeks and were proceeding with church discipline.

They reversed course on Thursday.

In an email sent to the Village Church’s more than 6,000 members, the church’s elders said they were releasing Hinkley from her membership and had reached out to apologize for their actions.

“We did not lead Karen and the church to a place conducive to peace, repentance and healing,” they wrote in a letter posted online by blogger Matthew Paul Turner. “Please know that we are reaching out to Karen and giving her this apology, and we have also made the decision to move forward in releasing her from membership. We will continue to support her financially through August as we committed, and our hope and prayer for her is that God would guide her to another gospel-believing church, where she can find healing and restoration.”

Hinkley’s case has raised questions of how the Village Church handles abuse claims and about the church membership model known as “covenant membership.”

Concerns about Jordan Root’s actions date back to the fall of 2014, according to public comments made by Hinkley and other documents posted on the Watchkeep website run by blogger Amy Smith.

Initially, Root admitted a long-standing addiction to adult pornography sometime in November, Hinkley said.

A few weeks later, she pressed him for more details, and he admitted child porn use.

“That night he admitted to almost ten years of child pornography use that began while he was in college and continued throughout his seminary studies into our dating and engagement,” she said. “He said that he preferred prepubescent girls ages four and older but that he had seen child pornography involving infants and teenagers as well.”

Hinkley reported that Root had allegedly violated SIM’s child safety protection policy in late 2014, George Salloum, SIM’s vice president of finance and operations, confirmed to CT.

The organization removed Root from the field and opened up a child safety investigation.

According to an internal report, SIM found that Root had viewed child pornography and fired him in February, two months after the couple had returned to the US. As part of their process, SIM reported Jordan’s actions to authorities.

No charges have been filed against Root since his return to the United States, though Salloum stood by SIM’s findings.

“I can’t speak to the FBI’s processes,” Salloum told CT. “Jordan was definitely found guilty of this violation which was against SIM policy and, we believe, in violation of US law. From a biblical perspective, he was definitely in sin, without question.”

In late December, the Village Church learned from SIM of Root’s admission of a child porn addiction and Hinkley’s concerns that he may have molested children, according to an email to Hinkley from Richard Brindley, a minister at the church’s Dallas Northway campus, where the couple had previously attended.

In an email to members, Village Church elders said that they reported Root to local law enforcement.

Chandler would not discuss details of Root’s case. He did say that the church’s policy calls for any accusation or confession of abuse or child endangerment to be reported directly to police.

The church also immediately places restrictions on anyone accused of being a danger to children. Those restrictions including banning them from children’s ministry or any meetings where children are present. Anyone accused of abuse must sign in with church staff, and be chaperoned at all times.

Those restrictions remain in place “forever,” even if the person is not charged with a crime, said Chandler.

Even though church leaders have not always immediately informed the congregation of allegations of abuse, they have informed all the staff, including church security personnel, Chandler said

The Village Church wants to extend the “scandalous grace” of the gospel to anyone who repents, even those that society deems unworthy of forgiveness, he said.

But Chandler said the church does not compromise when it comes to child safety.

“We come down fast and hard when allegations are made,” he said.

The break between the Village Church and Hinkley came not long after her return to Texas.

She asked Village Church elders to help her separate her finances from Root’s. They declined her request, saying it might lead to a divorce.

Two weeks later, she withdrew her membership from the Village Church and notified them that she had also filed for a legal annulment of her marriage. (The annulment was finalized on April 16.)

Hinkley told church leaders she could no longer stay in the same church as Root.

“I recognize both Jordan’s and my need for a church family who can love and care for us as we pursue our individual paths of healing and recovery,” Hinkley wrote to church leaders in February. “For my own health and the health of all parties involved, I have decided it is not best for me to be in the care of the same church family as Jordan.”

Since Hinkley had signed a membership covenant agreeing to “walk through the steps of marriage reconciliation at TVC before pursuing divorce from my spouse,” the church rejected both the annulment and the membership withdrawal:

…We have been perplexed by your decision to file for an annulment of your marriage without first abiding by your covenant obligations to submit to the care and direction of your elders. As I [Pastor Matt Younger] mentioned in my first letter, this decision violates your covenant with us—and places you under discipline. Per section 10.5 of The Village Church bylaws, you are prohibited from voluntarily resigning membership while subject to the formal disciplinary process. We cannot, therefore, accept your resignation.

Hinkley disputed any claim that she violated the church’s membership covenant.

“In signing their Membership Covenant shortly after my 24th birthday, I had agreed to nothing in regards to the possibility of annulment should I come to realize that my marriage had been a complete sham from the beginning,” she wrote. “There is a vast difference between a divorce and a marriage that is voided on the grounds of fraud.”

Complicating the matter is a section of Texas law that deals with marriage annulments. If a person voluntarily cohabitates with their spouse after learning of the fraud, they do not qualify for an annulment, Hinkley told CT.

“If I had ‘come back together [with Root] for the sake of pursuing possible reconciliation,’ I would not have had the option of having the fraudulent marriage annulled,” she wrote. “I would have been forced to choose between resuming a marriage to a fraudulent pedophile and pursuing a divorce.”

The Village Church practices what’s known as “covenant membership,” where church leaders and members vow to stick together, no matter what.

It’s a long-term commitment where “believers look more like they do in a family” and less “like the consumeristic membership characterized by many churches,” said Jonathan Leeman, editorial director at 9Marks, a ministry that promotes covenant membership and other similar practices.

“In many evangelical churches, church membership looks like Costco or a country club—where a consumer pays for a series of benefits for an agreed upon price and you come and go as you please,” Leeman said.

Most churches leaders have realized that asking members to let them vet life decisions can “lead to abuse” and towards “authoritarian leadership,” he said.

But because the Bible views most divorces as sinful, there is an expectation that members will discuss the circumstances of it with church leaders before they proceed, Leeman said.

However, he said, “it’s important to not tighten the screws too much and create exact policies. So much of this is, ‘How does it work in a family?’ You don’t have exact rules with your kids. A lot of situations are going to be dealt with on a case by case basis using wisdom and not just principles.”

That’s especially important in cases involving abuse.

When churches ask spouses to attempt to reconcile, it places both parties on the same footing, said Mike Sloan, who trains Christian organizations on how to protect children from abuse. But in a case where one spouse is an admitted sexual abuser, the partnership is no longer equal.

“It makes sense that a church would say, ‘Let’s work on this and try to walk through a reconciliation process,’” he said. “But the problem is that they [the church] aren’t equipped to deal with the dynamics of abuse. They’re not getting that not only does it often not work, but it is often re-traumatizing to the victim.”

Chandler admitted that the Village Church has been too heavy handed at times in requiring members to stick to the church’s covenant.

“There are specific instances where we have let our practices blind us to the person sitting in front of us,” he said. “We want to own our mistakes and apologize for that. When we have sinned—we want to own our sin and ask for forgiveness.”

Ironically, Root was not placed under church discipline, since he “has begun to walk in repentance and willingly submitted to the direction of his pastors,” the church said in an email to the congregation. “…Instead, moving forward, Jordan will remain in a season of intentional pastoral care, where his role will be to remain faithful to actions in keeping with repentance (Acts 26:20), pursuing holiness and purity, and continuing to flee from sin.”

The church has restricted Root from the children’s ministry building on its Dallas campus, but initially urged church members to say hello to the couple and spend time with them.

At first, church leadership declined to inform the congregation of Root’s addiction, citing concerns that parents might be sent “into a panic that might be unwarranted” and that a potential false report could cause a “devastating stigma” on Root’s life. An initial email to “friends, family, and supporters of the Roots” simply references Root’s “sin issues,” though a later email to the congregation details his actions.

Churches are often ill-equipped to handle those with a history of sexual deceit, and it usually isn’t hard for sexual abusers to say the words of repentance that a church wants to hear, Sloan said.

“We’re taken in by it,” Sloan said. “We believe the lie that we’re somehow ruining someone’s life if we expose them. The offender makes that argument, and we agree with it.”

The Village Church plans to audit its policies and practices when it comes to child protection and church discipline in the weeks to come, Chandler said.

The breakdown between Hinkley and the Village Church may mean she can’t go back to the mission field.

“In general, we prefer that missionaries be in good relationship with the sending church,” said Salloum. “I’m not going to say we wouldn’t redeploy a person if they didn’t have a good relationship with their church, but it would be a factor we would consider.”

Salloum said he did not know if Hinkley could work with SIM again if she found another church which would support her.

“Karen’s a victim. That’s the reality,” said Salloum. “She needs a lot of care, touch, and encouragement. The situation around her got bigger than I think anyone thought it was going to get, but at the end we care as much about Karen as we do about Jordan.”

Chandler said the church will reach out to anyone it has harmed through church discipline to apologize and to try to make things right.

That includes admitting that the church elders have failed to uphold their part of the church’s membership covenant, which requires them to treat everyone—including struggling members–with care and compassion.

“We have failed to do that,” he said. If there is anyone else who has been dealt with harshly in the past or is being dealt with harshly—we want to own that and work to restore that relationship.”

From http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2015/may-web-only/matt-chandler-apologizes-for-village-churchs-decision-to-di.html

Christy Thomas blogs…

“I attended the media-battered Northway Campus of The Village Church this morning (Sunday, May 31, 2015).

After the usual music preliminaries, the larger-than-life Chandler filled the video screen with a message from James 5:19-20: “My brothers, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone brings him back, let him know that whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins.”

He spent thirty minutes on the nature of church discipline. Several times he noted that the elders of The Village Church, and he in particular, are not yet perfect. They occasionally themselves need correction. Even so, they are the shepherds of this flock and will answer to God in heaven for their care of the flock.

Chandler also explained the nature of church discipline as practiced specifically by The Village Church. I did appreciate this. I was wondering in my darker moments if the male elders all just got in a circle and routinely passed around the latest erring one while they administered hearty slaps on the backside.

Very much not so.  It’s actually worse. What they do is refuse to affirm the faith of the erring one. In other words, they tell such a one, “You are doomed to eternal suffering and separation from God unless you repent and come back under our church authority.”

Near the end of the message, Chandler more directly addressed the current controversy. The attention came about when the elders placed under church discipline Karen (Root) Hinkley. Hinkley, a missionary sent from The Village Church, annulled her marriage to her admitted pedophiliac husband, Jordan Root, without first getting permission from the church elders. Those elders also told her she could not remove her membership from the church while under discipline.

So, yes, their plan was to tell Karen she was destined for hell. Jordan, however, was not placed under discipline nor are there any plans to do so. So it looks like it is OK for a man to enjoy looking photos of small children being violated sexually but not OK for his wife to acknowledge that no valid marriage ever existed to such a one.

Now The Village Church has issued an apology and agreed to release Hinckley from membership. The full text of the email sent to their members can be found here. As several have noted, it looks like it was written by a PR firm trying to do damage control. It actually admits to no wrongdoing against Ms. Hinckley, only to having not communicated more clearly to her their own standards and expectations.

However, in the video message, Chandler did take the apology quite a bit further. After continually reminding us of the fact that that the elders of the church are fallible, he also said that in numerous occasions they have clearly overstepped their authority and treated people quite badly. Time after time, Chandler said, “Please forgive me.”

He also stated clearly that many policies and procedures that bind those who sign the membership covenant are being given a fresh look. However, and this is key, none of their underlying doctrinal stances will be questioned or changed. They are to be seen as infallible and absolute.

And herein is the problem. Their theology camps on two highly disputed items of Christian thinking, stemming primarily from John Calvin, who imposed iron rule on the people Geneva when he rose to prominence in the 16th century.

One is the question of predestination. Has God indeed chosen ahead of time those who will inherit the kingdom of heaven (i.e., eternal salvation) and thus condemned the rest of creation to eternal conscious torment? According to Calvin, The Village Church, any church connected with the Acts 29 church planting network (note: Chandler is President of Acts 29) as well as any church connected with The Gospel Coalition, the answer is “Yes.”

Two is the question of absolute male authority in the church and in the home. According to this branch of Christian thinking, no females may ever serve in an authoritative role in the church. Also, the husband is the undisputed “servant-leader” of the home. Wives are to live in full submission to them.

Now, there’s lots of talk about “complementarianism” here, and God-ordained male and female “roles” and “spheres” and “gentle and loving leadership.” Nonetheless, the man is in charge. Period. His decisions are final and binding.

The all-male elders of the church also get to make final and binding decisions upon all members of such church. Keep this in mind: there are NO female voices or perspectives permitted at the decision-making level of any of these churches.

With those two points of doctrine guiding them, the church is a set up for abuse of the vulnerable however much they may not want this to happen. With only male voices having authority, all prejudice and preference, known or hidden, goes to the male. Second, if you don’t agree with these men theologically, then you are NOT one of the chosen, and thus destined to hell. Thus, they may easily dismiss you with condemnation.

Now, I want to go back to Matt Chandler, his apology and the empire he has built. There is no question but that this man is the Bill Clinton or the John F. Kennedy of the church planting world. His charisma is palpable.

He’s smart, well-spoken, articulate, good looking, well-muscled, and makes the listener feel as though he is speaking only to him or her. He referred briefly to his Christian super-star status in his apology, noting the world travel, the books, the Acts 29 presidency.

He’s got it all.

Furthermore, he knows that if the church falls apart, he’s going to lose it all. That’s a real and legitimate fear.

My companion this morning owns a PR firm. His comment afterward, “Businesses could learn from Chandler how to do an apology. Extremely well-written and compelling. And definitely informed by a professional in the PR business.”

Over and over again, Chandler said, “if” they have wounded someone, please come forward. He did indicate that people could come accompanied by anyone they wished and meet at the place of their choice. Note that those two options were not given to Karen when her attendance was commanded at one point. She was told when to appear and would facing the all-male elder board alone. So the church has taken a big step forward.

Chandler also acknowledged that they have met the suffering of victims with a distinct lack of compassion. He nearly wept at the end as he begged people to come forward and lay before him and the other elders the ways they have transgressed their trust.

It was a compelling apology.

And yet . . . I have to ask: without the media firestorm, without the exposure of the dark underbelly of their good-old boys club heavy handed actions against those who rebelled against their intrusive authoritative stances, would they have ever said or seen anything?

More, with the essentials of their theological stances seen as utterly sacred and not to be questioned, there is no reason for such abuses not to happen again. Their very theology gives them permission to condemn others, and particularly permission to condemn a wife who dares to question her husband as spiritual and human equal in the kingdom of heaven.

There is a lot of money riding on this apology. The Village Church is a giant operation with many sites and a large payroll. If it disintegrates (as did fellow Acts 29 church in Seattle, Mars Hill led by long-term friend of Chandler’s, Mark Driscoll), this would be disastrous for Chandler. He knows it. He told them in the video message that the church matters most to him. Yes, it does and for many many reasons.

Chandler and The Village Church offer a good message to comfortable, white,  young and attractive heterosexuals. I also think such a message is problematic because it’s very nature denies the need to be compassionate to the less fortunate.  Even so, it plays a role in keeping the gospel alive today and in seeking faithfulness to the Bible.

I do not wish Chandler ill nor do I want the giant industrial-church complex he has built to fall apart. There’s much good to be found in it. No institution is without its challenges.

But the shepherds of this institution claim to speak for God. Their words and actions say that a large portion of God’s creation has no voice. Yes, they will indeed have to answer to God. And they may not like what they hear.”

From http://christythomas.com/2015/05/31/matt-chandlers-apology-a-lot-of-money-resides-on-this/

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15 thoughts on “Church divorced from reality – updated*

  1. I think Driscoll was trying to get the women on side.
    But preachers have great jobs. Get 10% of a man’s income, make him come to church every Sunday and then berate him when he comes.

    He should have saved his best rants for the people who need it the most.
    And you KNOW WHO YOU ARE!
    lol

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  2. How dare you Bones! Who there hell do you think you are?
    WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?
    Change now little boy! Shut up!
    Shame on you!

    Step up and man up!

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  3. We need more pastors ripping off their church and abusing their congregations then whining like little pussies when they’re sacked.

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  4. Its good Q, starting to warm up for Summer … although it has taken a while.

    I’m finding my way around London slowly… and thinking about going on a day trip to Belgium.

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  5. Man, we need more macho, hetero preachers who aren’t pussies and preach about wives pleasing their men!
    Love it!

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  6. Its completely up to the woman if she wants to get divorced or not. But different clubs and churches have different rules. If you think the church or denomination is the only thing out there and if you don’t obey them you go to hell or something, then I guess you have to go along with whatever.

    But if not – just leave!
    It’s your life.

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